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Monthly Archives: May 2023

Narcissists don’t want YOU. They want access to what you have, and what you can do for them.
28 May 2023

Narcissists don’t want YOU. They want access to what you have, and what you can do for them.

by Robin | posted in: Uncategorised | 0

Over the last couple days, I’ve been in my yard, clearing out the weeds in the garden, hacking down the forest that has become our lawn, burning a lot of debris and dried out tree trimmings from last year, and … Continued

BCACC, covertnarcissist, Erica Van Driel, gaslighting, ghosts, Nanaimo, pathological liar, traumabonding
I bought a few domain names this week.
26 May 2023

I bought a few domain names this week.

by Robin | posted in: Uncategorised | 0

I went on a bit of a spending spree a couple nights ago and bought like…. 26 domain names. Aside from a bunch that I bought for myself, I bought ericavandriel.net, ericavandriel.org and ericavandriel.info, and now each of them point … Continued

BCACC, Nanaimo, Registered Clinical Counselor, sexual assault, Therapist, Vancouver island
I’m changing things up a bit.
23 May 2023

I’m changing things up a bit.

by Robin | posted in: Uncategorised | 0

I’m finding that I really enjoy writing. It’s been therapeutic and it’s really helped me see things more clearly, sort out my thoughts, and plan. So, I’ve decided to keep going with it, and make it a permanent thing. I’ve … Continued

BCACC, blog, changes, Erica Van Driel, nanaimo therapist, wordpress
I’m really uncomfortable with the word “rape”.
10 May 2023

I’m really uncomfortable with the word “rape”.

by Robin | posted in: Uncategorised | 0

The response from the Polyam/ENM community to my post in the poly group a couple days ago was absolutely insane. I have never felt more seen, supported or validated.  Throughout this process, I have spent a lot of time reflecting, … Continued

abuse, accountability, ethicallyvoid, Nanaimo, sexual assault, trauma bonding
“Yes. It absolutely *WAS* sexual assault.”
8 May 2023

“Yes. It absolutely *WAS* sexual assault.”

by Robin | posted in: Uncategorised | 0

Last week, I went to my family doctor and asked for a referral to see a psychiatrist. I told him what I’ll tell you: the further away from Erica I get, the more I see that she was toxic, abusive, … Continued

abuse, Erica Marlies, ericamarlies, ericavandriel, I did not consent, manipulation, Nanaimo, narcissist, sexual assault, trauma, trauma bonding, traumabonding
Hatred and rage keeps forgiveness at bay.
7 May 2023

Hatred and rage keeps forgiveness at bay.

by Robin | posted in: Uncategorised | 0

A few nights ago, before I went to Vancouver for the day, I’d watched a music video that was advertised in my Instagram feed. It was a new track from Lewis Capaldi – a singer who’s music has hit close … Continued

abuse, covertnarcissist, ethicallyvoid, evil, gaslighting, traumabonding, van driel
There are ghosts of her everywhere. But I know how to exorcise them.
5 May 2023

There are ghosts of her everywhere. But I know how to exorcise them.

by Robin | posted in: Uncategorised | 0

 Hoo boy. Yesterday is a lot to unpack.  Night before last, I had the same problem I always have – fall asleep, and wake up a few minutes later, fully “activated” (thanks, Erica, I’ll never get THAT fucking word out … Continued

accountability, confidentiality, ethicallyvoid, gaslighting, Nanaimo, NRGH, untrustworthy
“Seriously, though, why do you keep using the word “narcissist”?”
1 May 2023

“Seriously, though, why do you keep using the word “narcissist”?”

by Robin | posted in: Uncategorised | 0

I’ve said several times in my posts, and in the real world that I wholeheartedly believe that I have been in an abusive relationship and repeatedly used and manipulated by a covert narcissist. I’ve told my therapist, I’ve told my … Continued

confidentiality, covertnarcissist, ethicallyvoid, gaslighting, Nanaimo, pathologicalliars, toxicpeople, van driel

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